Category Archives: Marriage & Relationships

United by The Sameness of Difference

United by The Sameness of Difference

Our difference attracted us. Not the difference between ourselves, but the way we are both different from persistent, flourishing stereotypes.

gender stereotypes will forever cage the emotional joy of the sexual stage

The notion that the female is emotionally weaker than the male is perhaps the most ridiculous and the most relationship-destructive of all modern attitudes. The inherent strength of motherhood makes masculine bravado seem like a pompous courtship ritual. Puffed up chests full of hot air are fine for male turkeys not humans. Such gender silliness serves no one in the mating game that can, potentially, produce an enduring love that will expand sexuality far beyond all masturbatory fantasies of youth.

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The Hard and Soft of Sexual Dysfunction – Part Five: Dysfunctional Departure

The Hard and Soft of Sexual Dysfunction – Part Five: Dysfunctional Departure

These five articles have been shaped around Erectile Dysfunction. Not because we believe the major source of sexual dysfunction is related to the males’ lack of ability to achieve and maintain an erection. But, because E.D. has become a household word: A modern, comfortable topic for all couples except the most conservative. Pharmaceutical companies are in competition for a huge market and in their efforts to sell their products they have implied that they can restore the bond of orgasmic joy to lagging relationships.

They cannot.Read More

The Hard and Soft of Sexual Dysfunction  Part Three: Self Communication or Self Deception

The Hard and Soft of Sexual Dysfunction Part Three: Self Communication or Self Deception

Healthy Sex: here lies the key. Sadly, the key will not open a door that has been closed by lack of vitality. Sex can be part of the plan for combating physical lethargy, only, if the man is not sexually-lethargic. He must desire sex, and some men, youthful or well-aged, do not have a strong sex drive. Many men will welcome Erectile Dysfunction as a self deceptive excuse for their low sex drive.

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The Hard and Soft of Sexual Dysfunction  Part two: Communication vs Erectile Dysfunction

The Hard and Soft of Sexual Dysfunction Part two: Communication vs Erectile Dysfunction

Erectile Dysfunction: There are many reasons why a penis is not constantly erect. It takes up far too much space when there is no space in waiting. Erections make it very hard to pee; impossible at their most statuesque. Most importantly, if a man has an erection when stress demands he run or hide or fight for his life, he is not a lover he is a sociopath. For the functioning male there are many reasons why he is not erect and only one reason why he is.Read More

A Tale of Two Sisters – Destroying the Myth of Gender Stereotyping

A Tale of Two Sisters – Destroying the Myth of Gender Stereotyping

Enduring love has no formula. I wonder? Of course it does. But there is no man or woman who knows what it is. Read More

Character Transcends Gender

Character Transcends Gender

It was four years after our son’s death. It was a time when love had conquered grief. Together we had survived those painful years by building on the strength of our differences: Differences which eighteen years before had created the desire to court each other. We were 22 and 18 when we first saw our individual characters shine in the other’s eyes. Instantly we knew we were in love.There was never a time in our years together when we considered the differences we had proudly carried into our relationship were anything but positive influences. We had blended our differences into the formidable strength that gave us the will to survive the greatest challenge a couple could endure: The death of a child.Read More

Uneven Ground: “Teach Your Children Well”

My wife is the primary breadwinner in our family and works hard to provide for our children and I. However, she also tends to be—for lack of a better word—a huge slob! I feel like I’m in over my headRead More

There are no men from Mars. No women came from Venus.

There are no men from Mars. No women came from Venus.

MARS: Ancient Roman symbolism was depicted by Venus as the expression of beauty and love. Mars was the warrior face of man. The worship of each was equal: A completion of the human spirit. The splendor of Egyptian, Greek and Roman mythology shone in this equal worship of Male and Female Gods: Pray to Venus for procreation; pray to Mars for protection. Ever-evolving these Gods of the societies that formed the basis of modern civilization changed leadership roles according to the needs of humans.Read More

More Lovin’, Less Sexin’

I can’t keep up with my boyfriend’s sexual appetite! He literally wants to have sex all of the time, so much so that I feel like we don’t get to spend much time being intimate in more subtle waysRead More

Valentine’s: The Day of the Child

Valentine’s: The Day of the Child

A lie lives in the lair of love that rapes the intellect and turns adult romance into a droll marketing tool. It was a child’s game when we were children: A game to teach Kindergarten minds to share. With red crayons we drew teardrop shapes on white paper to take home to Mom. Love becameRead MoreRead More