Dear Rod and Anita,
First I would like to say that I absolutely love your blog! The perspective which you two amazing people provide in sharing your experiences has given me a great deal of strength in coming to terms with who I truly am. I am 27 and have been married for 3 years to my wife who is my greatest friend in the entire world. I have had an idea since I was in high school that I was bisexual or gay, but due to the conservative nature of my upbringing, I never in a million years would have had the opportunity to act on these thoughts or desires and to this day have not even so much as kissed another man. Last summer while studying abroad by myself I finally allowed myself to admit that I was bisexual. It was an incredible moment. I told my wife once I returned home and after the initial shock, she was incredibly supportive. I have now realized that I am not bisexual, but rather, am gay. I’ve talked about this many times with my wife, who has continued to offer her unrelenting support and love. I can honestly say that she is the only woman in the world that I am sexually attracted to, and believe me, I’ve watched DVDs, searched the Internet, and even taken many opportunities to look at beautiful women to see how I feel and I’d there is any sexual attraction whatsoever, and there is none lol. I greatly enjoy everything about the life that my wife and I have together. We have great chemistry sexually, and I am and will forever remain faithful to her. I have been finding myself since revealing that I am gay, noticing so many more men, and it’s like a light bulb has been turned on and everything going through my mind says…you are gay…embrace it. I have also known since I was a young boy that I have an incredibly feminine side and have so many times felt utterly helpless because I’ve always felt like I’m trapped in a man’s body when on the inside I am a woman. I don’t plan on having a sex change, but I find myself wanting to explore this side of myself to a much greater extent. I’ve never tried on women’s clothing or anything but it’s feeling like a desire that can’t continue to go unfulfilled. Being so happily married to the love of my life in a completely monogamous relationship is the greatest gift I could’ve ever asked for, that being said, do you two have any advice as to how I can continue to be the best husband that I can be while still embracing my true self? Thank you both so much for your time, I greatly appreciate it.